Is your child being bullied?

63% of bullied children don’t seek help

Bullying Options They feel…

No one really cares or understands what they are going through.
Weak, helpless & alone.
Their peers are watching & constantly judging them.

By telling someone, they…

Feel having failed handling the humiliating situation on their own.
Fear the “boomerang” effect – backlash from bully and their buddies.
Worry about being seen as a “stool pigeon” and rejected by their peers.

Noticing alarming changes in your child?

Warning signs are not always apparent

School, sports & social activities – Demanding to change/not go to school/activity.
Friends – Abandoned by old friends; becoming a loner…
Personality – Depressed; self-destructive; suicidal thoughts; low self-esteem…
Personal items – Stolen lunch; loss of money or electronics, torn clothing…
Physical health – Not wanting to eat; faking/complaining of: illness, headaches, and stomach aches. Unexplained injuries & bruises…
Sleeping & eating habits – Trouble falling asleep; nightmares, wetting the bed…

As a parent… did you?

Inform others about the bullying?
- Classroom teacher, principal, playground & hallway monitors.
- Logbook kept about the incident.
- Community police officer.
Request school administration meet the bully, his crew & their parents.
Try different ways of empowering your child?
- Let them know that together, you will work as a team.
- You have their back 100%.
- Establish a game plan for the next time it happens.
- Encourage them in the various things they are good at.
- Register them in a Martial Arts club – Judo, Karate…
Give your child bully-proofing advice – what worked for you as a child
- Careful when giving advice
  - Can they put into action what you suggested?
  - Do they have the character & personality for your game plan?
  - The best strategy is not to always to ‘Go tell an adult.’
  - At some point in time, your child must take a stand.
  - If you advise them to hit, push or answer back – practice together.
- Practice with your child
  - Where to play – whom to hang around with.
  - What to look for prior to the bullying occurring (trigger mechanism).
  - If confronted, what to say & how to assertively say it.
  - Stress body language – shoulders back, head up, eyes on the bully…
  - Who to go see & what to tell them about the incident…

BULLY-PROOF TRAINING WITH MR. MANOLI

Benefits of scenario based training

Your child will…

Be bullied many times in a controlled, safe environment.
Establish a realistic plan of action.
Be empowered by effectively handling repetitive bullying scenarios.
Know how to send a clear, assertive message to the bully.

Together, we will…

Practice, support & encourage your child during the bullying simulations.
Use proven, confrontational concepts when interacting with the bully.
Channel your child’sbullying fear into
Boost your child’s self-confidence.
Develop their “Don’t mess with me!”
Show them “THEY have what it takes” to stop this bullying.

MANOLI IS A BULLY-PROOFING COACH

Successfully empowering bullied children, teens and adults for over 30 years.
Active Police officer with the SPVM.
Holds Black Belts in Karate and Judo.
Bachelor of education degree and author of 3 personal safety manuals.
Runs his own Karate, Jiu-Jitsu & Bully-proofing club at the Beaconsfield Rec. Centre.
- At our club, parents train for FREE alongside their child or can sit & watch.
His personal safety ‘hands-on’ self-defense expertise was used by:
- Air Canada: Cabin defense, dealing with unruly passengers.
- Bombardier Aerospace: Assertiveness training & Verbal Judo.
- Montreal Police Force (SPVM): Gun retention program for street cops.
Recently talked about in the:
- Montreal Gazette (July 2018)
- Journal de Montreal & Quebec (July 2018)
- CJAD – Aaron Rand show
- LCN – TV
Assisting & empowering ‘Rape & Assault’ survivors for the CNESST (Commission des normes, de l’équité, de la santé et de la sécurité du travail).

BULLY-PROOFING YOUR CHILD – 4 options

Anti Bullying - Don't Bully me!

OPTION 1 – Private, bully-proofing session

General private session information

Private session duration: 5 – 3 hours
Participant’s age: Children (6+), teens & adults.
Location: In your home or at our east end, Montreal studio.
Private session cost: Varies – travel time.

During the private session

We dissect the bullying that occurred – what was said, done, results, etc.
An action plan is put into place for:
- The family.
- The bullied individual.
Confrontation rules & principles are clearly explained & demonstrated.
Bullying scenarios are done with the participant & family members.
- Multiple bullying scenarios will be enacted during the session.
- Some family members will be asked to participate in the bullying scenarios.
- Corrections are made & responses are fine-tuned.
Student attains the desired mind-set: assertive & empowered.
- We are there to work as a team.
- Our goal is to boost your child’s confidence in order for the bullying to stop.
- Before leaving, reminders are given on strategies established together.

OPTION 2 – Bully-proofing course (9 h.)

General course information

Course duration: 9 hours
Number of sessions: 6 sessions X 1.5 hours each session.
Location: In your home, office or community center.
Participant’s age: 5 – 12 years old.
Parent participation: Optional
Number of participants in a course: 6 to 24 participants.
Cost will vary: (a) Number of participants; (b) Travel time.
Equipment needed: Carpeted area or mats (can be supplied).

Course teaches children…

They have the right to be left alone.
To inform others they are being bullied.
Avoid physical fights at all cost.
Never hit or hurt the bully when taunted.
The confrontational principles & rules of engagement when bullied.

If the bullying does not stop, they will learn…

How to verbally and confidently talk & confront the bully.
What to do if physically attacked.
How to establish ground control & negotiate peace with the bully.

Typical 1.5 h session

Module 1 – Warm-ups (10 – 15 min.)
Module 2 – Empowering, bullying scenarios & confrontational games (45 – 50 min.)
Module 3 – Combative games & fighting (15 – 20 min.)

OPTION 3 – Interactive, parent-child workshop (2 h.)

General workshop information

Duration: 2 – 2.5 hours
Participant’s age: 6 – 12 years old.
Location: School, office, company, community center.
Cost will vary according to: Number of participants & travel time
Number of participants: 12 to 30 participants accompanied by a parent.
Parents must accompany & stay with their child during the entire workshop.

Modules covered during the workshop

Module 1 – Group discussion – Who, what, where & why
Module 2 – How to effectively bully-proof a child & having a ‘plan of action’.
Module 3 – Bullying scenarios enacted with Mr. Manoli
- Some children will be selected to enact bullying scenarios
Module 4 – Questions & answers

To reserve a bully-proofing course or workshop

Contact Mr. Manoli in order to reserve a date(s) for your event.
- Cell or text: 438-392-4683
- E-mail:gmanoli@videotron.ca
Sessions can be given in French or English.
You gather:
- Friends
- Classmates
- Community members
- Co-workers, etc.
We travel to you, the client, in order to offer our services.
You find a location to hold the session(s):
- Home
- Office
- School
- Community center, etc.
There are no contracts to sign or cash deposits required.
We are incorporated & insured.
You will receive in writing:
- A clear lesson plan of what will be taught.
- The duration of the event(s).
- The cost to run the event(s).
We will refer you to a course or workshop if one opens up to the public.

OPTION 4 – Train at our Club in Beaconsfield

Bullying Witnesses

We are a family oriented club.
Classes are offered to children, teens & adults.
Our programs run from September to June.
We train on Thursdays & Saturdays.
Location:
- Beaconsfield Recreation Center 1975 City Lane Beaconsfield, Qc. H9W 6B1

On-going Karate, Jiu-Jitsu & Bully-proofing programs