Is your child being bullied?

63% of bullied children don’t seek help

Bullying Options

They feel…

  • No one really cares or understands what they are going through.
  • Weak, helpless & alone.
  • Their peers are watching & constantly judging them.

By telling someone, they…

  • Feel having failed handling the humiliating situation on their own.
  • Fear the “boomerang” effect – backlash from bully and their buddies.
  • Worry about being seen as a “stool pigeon” and rejected by their peers.

Noticing alarming changes in your child?

Warning signs are not always apparent

  • School, sports & social activities – Demanding to change/not go to school/activity.
  • Friends – Abandoned by old friends; becoming a loner…
  • Personality – Depressed; self-destructive; suicidal thoughts; low self-esteem…
  • Personal items – Stolen lunch; loss of money or electronics, torn clothing…
  • Physical health – Not wanting to eat; faking/complaining of: illness, headaches, and stomach aches. Unexplained injuries & bruises…
  • Sleeping & eating habits – Trouble falling asleep; nightmares, wetting the bed…

As a parent… did you?

My child is a bully what can I do

Inform others about the bullying?

  • Classroom teacher, principal, playground & hallway monitors.
  • Logbook kept about the incident.
  • Community police officer.

Request school administration meet the bully, his crew & their parents.

Try different ways of empowering your child?

  • Let them know that together, you will work as a team.
  • You have their back 100%.
  • Establish a game plan for the next time it happens.
  • Encourage them in the various things they are good at.
  • Register them in a Martial Arts club – Judo, Karate…

Give your child bully-proofing advice – what worked for you as a child

Careful when giving advice

  • Can they put into action what you suggested?
  • Do they have the character & personality for your game plan?
  • The best strategy is not to always to‘Go tell an adult.’
  • At some point in time, your child must take a stand.
  • If you advise them to hit, push or answer back – practice together.

Practice with your child

  • Where to play – whom to hang around with.
  • What to look for prior to the bullying occurring (trigger mechanism).
  • If confronted, what to say & how to assertively say it.
  • Stress body language – shoulders back, head up, eyes on the bully…
  • Who to go see & what to tell them about the incident… 

BULLY-PROOF TRAINING WITH MR. MANOLI

Benefits of scenario based training

Your child will…

  • Be bullied many times in a controlled, safe environment.
  • Establish a realistic plan of action.
  • Be empoweredby effectively handlingrepetitive bullying scenarios.
  • Know how to send a clear, assertive message to the bully.

Together, we will…

  • Practice, support & encourage your child during the bullying simulations.
  • Use proven, confrontational concepts when interacting with the bully.
  • Channel your child’sbullying fear into
  • Boost your child’s self-confidence.
  • Develop their“Don’t mess with me!”
  • Show them, “THEY have what it takes” to stop this bullying.

MANOLI, IS A BULLY-PROOFING COACH

  • Successfully empoweringbullied children, teens and adults for over 30 years.
  • Active Police officer with the SPVM.
  • Holds Black Beltsin Karate and Judo.
  • Bachelor of education degree & author of 3 personal safety manuals.
  • Runs his own Karate, Jiu-Jitsu & Bully-proofing club at the Beaconsfield Rec. Centre.
    • At our club, parents train for FREE alongside their child or can sit & watch.
  • His personal safety ‘hands-on’ self-defense expertise was used by:
    • Air Canada: Cabin defense, dealing with unruly passengers.
    • Bombardier Aerospace: Assertiveness training & Verbal Judo.
    • Montreal Police Force (SPVM):Gun retention program for street cops.
  • Recently talked about in the:
    • Montreal Gazette (July 2018)
    • Journal de Montreal & Quebec (July 2018)
    • CJAD – Aaron Rand show
    • LCN – TV
  • Assisting & empowering‘Rape & Assault’ survivorsfor the CNESST (Commission des normes, de l’équité, de la santé et de la sécurité du travail).

BULLY-PROOFING YOUR CHILD

Anti Bullying - Don't Bully me!

4 available options

OPTION 1. Private, bully-proofing session

General private session information

  • Private session duration:5 – 3 hours
  • Participant’s age:Children (6+), teens & adults.
  • Location:In your home or at our east end, Montreal studio.
  • Private session cost: Varies – travel time.

During the private session

  • We dissect the bullying that occurred – what was said, done, results, etc.
  • An action plan is put into place for:
    • The family.
    • The bullied individual.
  • Confrontation rules & principles are clearly explained & demonstrated.
  • Bullying scenarios are done with the participant & family members.
    • Multiple bullying scenarios will be enacted during the session.
    • Some family members will be asked to participate in the bullying scenarios.
    • Corrections are made & responses are fine-tuned.
  • Student attains the desired mind-set: assertive & empowered.
    • We are there to work as a team.
    • Our goal is to boost your child’s confidence in order for the bullying to stop.
    • Before leaving, reminders are given on strategies established together. 

OPTION 2. Bully-proofing course (9 h.)

General course information

  • Course duration:9 hours
  • Number of sessions:6 sessions X 1.5 hours each session.
  • Location:In your home, office or community center.
  • Participant’s age:5 – 12 years old.
  • Parent participation:
  • Number of participants in a course: 6 to 24 participants.
  • Cost will vary: (a) Number of participants; (b) Travel time.
  • Equipment needed: Carpeted area or mats (can be supplied).

Course teaches children…

  • They have the right to be left alone.
  • To inform others they are being bullied.
  • Avoid physical fights at all cost.
  • Never hit or hurt the bully when taunted.
  • The confrontational principles & rules of engagement when bullied.

If the bullying does not stop, they will learn…

  • How to verbally and confidently talk & confront the bully.
  • What to do if physically attacked.
  • How to establish ground control & negotiate peace with the bully.

Typical 1.5 h session

  • Module 1 – Warm-ups (10 – 15 min.)
  • Module 2 – Empowering, bullying scenarios & confrontational games (45 – 50 min.)
  • Module 3 – Combative games & fighting (15 – 20 min.)

OPTION 3.Interactive, parent-child workshop (2 h.)

General workshop information

  • Duration:2 – 2.5 hours
  • Participant’s age:6 – 12 years old.
  • Location:School, office, company, community center.
  • Cost will vary according to:Number of participants & travel time
  • Number of participants: 12 to 30 participants accompanied by a parent.
  • Parents must accompany & stay with their child during the entire workshop.

Modules covered during the workshop

  • Module 1 – Group discussion – Who, what, where & why
  • Module 2 – How to effectively bully-proof a child & having a ‘plan of action’.
  • Module 3 – Bullying scenarios enacted with Mr. Manoli
    • Some children will be selected to enact bullying scenarios
  • Module 4 – Questions & answers

To reserve a bully-proofing course or workshop

  • Contact Mr. Manoli in order to reserve a date(s)for your event.
  • Sessions can be given in French or English.
  • You gather:
    • Friends
    • Classmates
    • Community members
    • Co-workers, etc.
  • We travel to you, the client, in order to offer our services.
  • You find a location to hold the session(s):
    • Home
    • Office
    • School
    • Community center, etc.
  • There are no contracts to sign or cash deposits required.
  • We are incorporated & insured.
  • You will receive in writing:
    • A clear lesson plan of what will be taught.
    • The duration of the event(s).
    • The cost to run the event(s).
  • We will refer you to a course or workshop if one opens up to the public.

OPTION 4. Train at our Club in Beaconsfield

Bullying Witnesses

  • We are a family oriented club.
  • Classes are offered to children, teens & adults.
  • Our programs run from September to June.
  • We train on Thursdays & Saturdays.
  • Location:
    • Beaconsfield Recreation Center
      1975 City Lane
      Beaconsfield, Qc.
      H9W 6B1

On-going Karate, Jiu-Jitsu & Bully-proofing programs

AGE THRUSDAYS SATURDAYS
 5 – 7 years old 5 – 6 pm 8 h 30 – 9 h 45
8 – 10 years old 6 – 7 h 15 pm 9 h 30 – 10 h 55
Teens (11+) & adults 7 h 15 – 9 pm 11 am – 1 pm

Everyone is welcome to come train

  • Try 2 FREE classes.
  • Parents train for FREE alongside their child.
  • No Karate or Judo uniform is initially required.
  • Classes are given in both French & English.
  • Ample parking available.
  • Beautiful facilities at the Beaconsfield Rec. Center.
  • Training is done barefoot on a clean, matted, safe area.
  • Club registration form is available on this site in the “Karate/Jiu-jitsu” icon.

Contact Mr. Manoli

 

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